In this life, people have the same opportunities, but their thoughts and actions are different, leading to different results in life.
Billionaire Bill Gates once revealed that the key to Warren Buffett’s success is something that anyone can do but few people will. So behind each person’s success are choices and endeavors in life. Letting go cannot be successful, everyone needs to train themselves.
Bill Gates believes that the success of his best friend – Warren Buffett comes from a very simple habit. That habit is reading books every day.
Buffett typically spends 5-6 hours a day reading books and finds it “interesting to think about business and investment matters.”
Warren Buffett once gave great advice to everyone, “Read 500 pages of books a day. It is a way to help you accumulate and build knowledge for yourself. This is something anyone can do, but I’m sure not many of us will. ”
In fact, for today’s success, he has even read 600 to 1,000 pages of books a day since the beginning of his career. Buffett once added that reading has always been his top priority and that at times he spends up to 80% of his day reading.
Well, the same action, but each of us behaves differently, leading to different results.
There is a familiar story like this:
In a garden of a old man farmer, the resulting purple bunch of grapes were so lustful that anyone who saw them would be enamored.
These grapes also cannot escape the nearby foxes.
The first fox came to the vineyard
It found that the vine was much taller than it was tall.
He stood below thinking for a moment, he did not want to give up because this was a rare opportunity.
Thinking for a moment, he discovered a ladder next to the truss, he remembered seeing a farmer using this ladder.
Therefore, he also learned to follow the farmer to climb the ladder and pick grapes to eat.
What the first fox uses is a problem-solving method.
Faced with the problem, it doesn’t run away, it doesn’t give up.
It learns from the experience of others, makes other people’s forte compensate for their own shortcomings, and ultimately uses tools to solve problems.
The two fox came to the vineyard
It also found that the vine was too high for it to reach.
So, he thought, this grape must be very sour, it won’t be sweet, it’s not delicious to eat, or just don’t eat it.
Just like that, it gives up on eating grapes.
What the second fox uses is the so-called “sour grape effect” in psychology, which means giving some reason to rationalize its actions, so that even if you give up, you don’t feel guilty or regretful.
This type of mentality makes the fox lose his chance and at the same time give up the chance to get something that might be good for him.
The third fox came to the vineyard
He saw the tall truss grapes, didn’t want to compromise, he thought: I can jump with it, as long as I put in effort, I can definitely do it.
The thought of “there is will to do” motivates it not to give up.
But the reality is different from imagined, it jumps lower and lower because of fatigue.
Eventually it dies under the vine from exhaustion and becomes the nourishment of the vine.
The behavior of the third fox, in psychology is called “stubborn”.
It repeats useless actions, it makes itself tired, does not produce high performance, or even regains anything.
We sometimes call this psychological phenomenon obsessive-compulsive.
The existence of obsessive compulsions says one thing: not every problem can use a method to solve it, to take seriously many relevant factors such as the actual situation, the capacity of myself or the situation at that time …
The 4th fox comes to the vineyard
The moment he saw that the vine was too high he was disappointed, loudly he opened his mouth to scold. It destroyed the branches that it reached, had just been discovered by a farmer and beaten to death.
The behavior of the 4th fox is called “assault”.
This is the method that should not be most applied, both harming people and harming us.
In addition, invisible, it also makes you lose sympathy in the eyes of others, later wanting to cooperate with someone, lest it becomes harder and harder.
The 5th fox comes to the vineyard
Seeing that his height was too modest compared to the truss grape, he immediately sobbing.
He pityed himself why he was so small, if he was as big as an elephant, then whether he liked to eat or not.
It was sad because the vine was so high, he waited hard for a year to eat the grapes, but still did not get any results.
Expression of the 5th fox, in psychology, people call it “step back”.
When an individual encounters difficulties, he will retreat from higher personality development to lower personality development to reduce anxiety.
The person who regularly steps back will become weaker, unable to do anything, unable to cope with challenges, and expressing or enhancing himself will become more and more difficult.
The seventh fox comes to the vineyard
Standing under the tall vines, its mood was extremely bad.
He thought why he could not eat, why his fate was so tragic, it was difficult to eat grapes, why was his luck so bad?
The more sad he thinks, the more he eventually dies in grief.
The condition of the 7th fox is one of the manifestations of “depression”.
This is a neurological disorder characterized by persistent depression. Depressed people will lose their motivation to progress, constantly attack themselves, desperately like falling into a black puddle, unable to get up, nor know why to stand up.
The 8th fox comes to the vineyard
It tried to jump with grapes but was unsuccessful.
It tries to tell me not to think about grapes, but it cannot stop me from thinking about grapes, it also tries some other ways but it also doesn’t work.
He heard that another fox ate the grapes, his mood worsened, and at last he crashed his head into the vine and left.
The end of the 8th fox is due to unbalanced psychology.
In real life, we often encounter situations like these. A lot of people alone are okay, but when compared to others, the psychology will be imbalanced, choosing the inappropriate methods to deal with.
The 9th fox comes to the vineyard
Nor does it reach the grapes.
In his heart thought, the other foxes said that the taste of grapes is not much different from lemons, if I can’t eat grapes, I eat lemons, I can’t wait for grapes to fall, right!
Thinking so, it pleased to leave the vineyard.
The behavior of the ninth fox in psychology is called “substitution”.
It uses a selection of what it can reach to replace its unmet aspirations.
The 10th fox comes to the vineyard
He sees the difference between his ability and the high vines up there, he thinks that with his present ability, wanting to eat grapes is impossible.
Thinking so, he decides to go home to “charge it up” first, and he signs up for a class that teaches vintage technology.
Finally, it picked grapes.
What the 10th fox uses is a problem-oriented response strategy.
It can accurately analyze the relationship and nature between itself and the incident, then find a solution, this is a quite effective response method.
The 11th fox comes to the vineyard
It also faces similar situation.
He looked around, then lured some other friends to come, by the time they weren’t paying attention, he knocked those friends out and stacked them on top of each other, then climbed up and picked grapes.
Although the 11th fox solved the problem in the end, but it resolved on the basis of harming the interests of others, this response method should not be used.
The 12th fox comes to the vineyard
This is an extremely beautiful and beautiful fox girl.
He thinks he is a girl, with weak limbs and limbs, how could he not be able to pick grapes, just by using other people’s strength?
Just like that, he went to find a male friend, this fox borrowed a ladder to give her the gift she loved most.
Expression of the 12th fox, in psychology called the “principle of compensation”.
Use the opponent’s strengths to make up for something you don’t have.
In some situations this method is also applicable.
The 13th fox comes to the vineyard
He was dissatisfied with the height of the vine, because this prevented him from eating the succulent grapes, thinking so, he blamed the vines.
It said because the vine was too tall, saying that the inside of the vine was not as beautiful as it looked.
After “discharge” finished, it quietly left.
The behavior of the 13th fox is called the “compensation effect”.
Means participating in a certain symbolic activity to compensate or counteract your true feelings.
The 14th fox comes to the vineyard
Realizing that he could not eat the grapes he wanted, seeing the broken grapes on the floor and the grape skins left behind by other foxes, he contemptuously said: This Thursday”.
The behavior of the 14th fox in psychology is called the “reverse effect”.
This is a psychological defense mechanism in which behaviors and motivations are completely opposite.
The 15th fox comes to the vineyard
It did not loudly scold, nor persistently climb, but exclaimed:
Sometimes the beautiful things are always so far away that we also need a certain distance, so what’s wrong with letting yourself delusional a little?
Just like that, it released its soul in the vineyard and a collection of poetry was born.
The behavior of the 15 fox in psychology is called “substitution effect”.
It means using a different spirit to replace a certain spirit.
The 16th fox comes to the vineyard
After finding out that something was not going well, not long after, stomach pain, bad digestion appeared on its body.
The fox did not understand, it was originally a person who was very attentive to eating, how could there be digestive problems.
The 16 fox’s condition, in psychology is called “transformation”.
It translates psychological disappointment into physical illness.
The 17th fox appeared in the vineyard
It detected the same problem.
His mouth curled and said: “What a big deal, they say we have children too, whoever says only monkeys can eat grapes, foxes can eat!”.
The words and actions of the 17th fox are an emotional coping style.
In psychology, we can call it “analogous function”. That is, when your self-worth is lower than that of others, look to people who have relationships with you to realize your own worth.
The 18th fox comes to the vineyard
He thinks, I can’t eat, the other fox won’t eat either, why don’t I learn the spirit of cooperation through the story of “the monkey swarms”?
Before that there were monkeys fishing for the moon, now there are foxes picking grapes, maybe they can go into legends!
So, it encourages the foxes to want to eat grapes and offers to cooperate, forming a fox ladder, so anyone can eat grapes.
The 18th fox knows what ethical cooperation is, in the end, not only for himself but also for people.
What a person reap, comes from the action they put in.
The actions they take, stemming from their perceptions and mentality.
So always try to strive myself no matter where you are in any situation. Even when being led by someone, you still need to rely on yourself, constantly researching and training by yourself.